Dear Brave and Courageous Woman,
Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails -1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
You are patient, you are kind, you do not envy, you do not boast, you are not proud. I know this because to be reading this you are acting in the name of love. You are brave, you are strong. No matter where you are what you are thinking or feeling, the fact you are even considering adoption for your child takes a tremendous amount of courage and love. We admire you, no matter what you choose, know that we have been praying for you. You are our hero, and will be spoken as such in our home.
We do not know you, nor the heartache and pain that you are going through. Yet we love you, respect you, and admire you. It takes tremendous courage to parent and even more courage to place your child in the hands of a stranger hoping that they will care and love for your baby in the way that your baby deserves. Know that making an adoption plan for your baby makes you no less of a mother than if you were to take care of them and guide them through all of life’s ups and downs. But we hope to get the chance to know you, and the child you are carrying.
Adoption has always been on our hearts. We met at church and when we had the “kid” conversation prior to getting married, we both mentioned our heart to adopt. We have now been married eleven years, have two beautiful boys, and are hoping to add a little girl to our family. Both our boys are so excited to be big brothers and would be great helpers, protectors, and friends to the baby.
We cannot guarantee a perfect life for any child, nor that we will be the perfect parents. But what we can promise is that we will love her with all our hearts, that she will be taken care of, and that she is entering into a very loving home with two big brothers who have amazing hearts. We promise to do the best for our children and give them everything they need. To fight for them and with them as they face challenges, to support them throughout their struggles, to lead them as best we can to God, to learn all about them, and guide them along the difficult journey of life. In addition, if there is a special family or cultural tradition that you have, we would love to learn about it so we can incorporate it into our family.
We are both teachers in the district where our children attend school, which means we spend the summer adventuring and spending time with our kids, and we have all breaks off with our kids. We always take at least one trip during the summer, and we spend a lot of time in the mountains year round (skiing, hiking, enjoying the outdoors). Amy is planning on taking the maximum amount of time off work to welcome the child and make sure that she adjusts. Both of our jobs know that this is our plan and are very supportive of us welcoming an adopted child and are willing to work with us to get the maximum time off when we get the call. Amy also does photography on the side- so if you choose us you’ll get lots of cute photos.
Family is super important for us and we spend a lot of time with extended family and are blessed to be really close to everyone in our family. We have two boys, ages 7 and 5. We have dinner together every night and we spend a lot of time together as a family. They are both great boys that are full of energy and love. Amy’s parents come and help with the kids at least a couple of times a month, and Amy’s brother and his wife also live in the area and just welcomed a little girl. James’ parents live in Southern California. This means we get the best of both worlds. We live in the mountains but visit the beach every year. James’ parents come out once a year and we go out every summer to visit them.
We are super close with our extended family as well and they are so excited to welcome a child. Our extended family is multicultural, and she would have cousins that are also adopted that we see regularly. We also have a lot of friends that have adopted children, understand the struggle that can accompany adoption, and they are so excited to support us on our journey.
We have a great home. The nursery is set up right next to the boy’s room. It is spacious, decorated, and ready for a baby. We have a spare bedroom for all the grandparents to visit, and another bed set up in the basement to accommodate multiple visitors. We have a grand piano in our study where Amy plays and is teaching the kids to play as well. We have a large backyard with a playset and lots of room to run and play. We are at the end of a cul de sac, making it the perfect place to learn to ride a bike and play with the neighbors, which include tons of kids of all ages that love to play with each other. There are parks and walking paths throughout our neighborhood. We also have the mountain playground pretty much in our backyard (aka the Rocky Mountains). Our neighborhood is very diverse and we are glad to live in such a rich cultural area. We also have the perfect daycare situation as our next-door neighbor runs a daycare out of her house and is holding a spot for a baby for us.
We pray for you every night. We pray for your child every night. We pray for your decisions, that you would feel good and confident no matter what you decide. We will keep in touch with you and make sure that your child knows how amazing their mom is.
We love you, admire you, and you are our hero. We hope to get the chance to meet such a remarkable woman,
James and Amy